Pink, Presents & Pronouns: 23+ Celebrities & Their Unconventional Parenting Rules

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It's hard to imagine that our favorite celebs are just like us. But when it comes to parenting, these stars have similar, yet unorthodox, standards for their kids to follow.

From banning the color pink to banning presents, these celebs and their rules will have you hugging your kids, while they'll be thanking their lucky stars they were raised the way that they were.

Angelina Jolie: Doesn't Believe In Standard Schooling

Angelina Jolie prefers to home-school the kids, allowing her children to explore their interests, rather than going to a regular school program. "I do think we live in a different age and the education system hasn't caught up with our children and our way of life," Jolie said in a past interview.

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Jolie also noted, "I'd rather them go to a museum and learn to play guitar and read and pick a book they love." Despite the freedom, the kids are enrolled in the French Lycee program, taught by specialized teachers. However, Jolie is the first one to say, "Get the schoolwork done as quickly as possible because let's go out and explore.'"

Blake Lively & Ryan Reynolds: Changing-Up Pronouns

The Hollywood power couple is raising three strong and empowered girls. They've decided to use more gender-neutral pronouns, starting with Ryan, who's made it his mission to change it up, especially when using general speech. Blake explains, "My husband was like, 'Why do I always say he?' to which she replied, 'That’s what we’re taught.'"

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The couple wants to show their daughters that women can be bosses as well: "We’ve joked that my daughter is bossy. But my husband said, 'I don’t ever want to use that word again. You’ve never heard a man called bossy.'" Blake also notes, "We’re all born feeling perfect until somebody tells us we’re not... She already has all of it."

Kim & Kanye: Banned The Color Pink

Raising children in a more gender-neutral household is becoming more popular. The king and queen of entertainment are no different in this matter. They encourage their infants to choose their own colors rather than being classified to one specific gender. So, they banned the color pink from the house.

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Though, it's not only because pink is considered a more girly color, but mostly because Kanye hates the shade, as he thinks girls in pink are so 'cliche.' Even though North may wear the occasional pink now that she's older, the megastar couple still keeps the rule for the younger kids.

Madonna: Tosses Clothes Left On Floor

When her kids were younger, Madonna was pretty strict, especially when it came to clothes on the floor. "We take all of her clothes and put them in a bag, and she has to earn all of her clothes back by being tidy. She wears the same outfit every day to school until she learns her lesson." Madonna tells about her oldest.

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Madonna had to be the strict one, because "Guy's the spoiler. When Daddy gets home they're going to get chocolate. I'm more practical." Despite Madonna's 'Material Girl' wild-child reputation, she keeps a clean house and expects her kiddos to follow the rules, or else suffer her punishments.

Mila & Ashton: Don't Do Presents

Growing up as the children of famous, rich parents can be an easy path to privilege town. However, the Kunis-Kutcher couple being aware of this, don't want their kids to be too materialistic. "So far, our tradition is no presents for the kids," Mila explained. But don't worry, as the kids age, the presents shall return.

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The couple devised this no-presents plan after the grandparents went a little overboard with the gifts, "The kid no longer appreciates the one gift. They don't even know what they're expecting, they're just expecting stuff." Kunis went on to explain that they'd rather just one gift, or better yet, donate to charity instead.

Gisele & Tom Brady: Don't Use Diapers

When Gisele had her son Benjamin, she dropped the diaper routine and decided to go for a more natural way of hygiene. Mostly because it was more environmentally conscious. "Diapers pollute the environment. Where does this garbage go?" Gisele asked.

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Benjamin would walk around naked all day, with momma keeping a close eye for potty time signals. Gisele performed the seemingly unimaginable and was able to sync her son's potty time to a schedule. Usually, after feeding was when he needed to go, so she would keep close to a bathroom, “Give it about five minutes, and bang!" Gisele joked.

Beyonce & Jay Z: Use Confidence Coaches

The royal family of hip hop has enlisted confidence coaches to help and build high self-esteem early on in their kids' development. The couple wanted their kids to have the confidence they themselves lacked as kids. The coaches used dancing, singing, and child-centered books to help build Blue Ivy's confidence.

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Described as a very shy girl, now Blue is very assertive and speaks her mind. Jay Z tells, "I told her to get in the car the other day because she was asking a thousand questions and we had to leave for school." Her response? "Dad, I didn’t like it when you told me to get in the car, the way you told me, it hurt my feelings."

Queen B & Hova: Also Want Their Kids Bilingual

Again Beyonce and Jay Z want to give their kids the opportunities they never really had. Because of this, the Carter kids learn multiple languages already from a young age, with reports that speaking French was part of Blue's nanny requirements.

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The lesson doesn't stop with the language of love, as Blue and the other kids also learn Spanish. "I was on a plane with Jay-Z one day and he was on FaceTime with his daughter and she was two years old. She was speaking Spanish," revealed rapper Meek Mill of the young Carter showing off her skills.

Jennifer Garner: Gives Kids A 'Yes Day'

As a parent to young kids, the word no is used pretty often. From "no, you can't eat that off the floor," to "no, you can't drive yet," the word can have a harmful meaning as they grow. So, Jennifer Garner has literally taken a page out of Amy Rosenthal's book, Yes Day! She allows the kids one day a year where they can go wild.

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Garner has been doing this for the last seven years and loves it so much. Even though tiring for the actress/mom, she takes her kids on a variety of adventures, from camping to rock climbing. Every year the kids look forward to their special day, while in the meantime following the rules and being good kids.

Kimye: Also Don't Allow Makeup

Yeah, I know this seems a bit weird considering that Kim is a cosmetics mogul and is rarely seen not dolled up. In the past, the Wests allowed their kids to wear makeup, but as Kanye became more devoted to Christianity, his views have become more conservative - including forbidding his children from using makeup.

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"She loves makeup, but her dad won’t let her wear it... I think he had it, he changed all the rules. I’d let her wear, you know, she has a little red for Christmas, I’d let her wear a red lip... Kylie would give her all of these lip kits, so I kind of got in trouble for that...," Kim explained.

Reese Witherspoon: Employs Southern Rules

Reese, who grew up in Nashville, was raised on southern tradition, but found raising kids in L.A. is a whole other challenge. "My parents taught me to respect my elders. We’d say things like ‘yes, ma’am’ and ‘no, sir’ to adults. But kids in Los Angeles don’t do that. I’ve drawn the line at my children calling adults by their first names."

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"Maybe I’m just old-fashioned," Reese said about her parenting. She wanted her kids to have her southern values, like setting the table and going to church on Sundays. She explains, “Church takes you out of your personal experience and universalizes it...We are all struggling to figure out what life is about.”

'Elle Woods': Also Gives Out An Allowance

Reese knows her kids are raised wealthy, therefore she gives her kids small amounts of cash to teach them the true value of a dollar. “I give each of the kids five dollars when we go to the farmer’s market on the weekends. They can buy something, save it, or spend part of it and save the rest."

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Over the years, Reese has learned how to be financially conscious and wants to instill the same values in her kids. "My son is just like me: The minute he gets the money, he spends it all on something delicious. But my daughter will go around the market... weighing the possibilities until she buys one thing.”

Will & Jada Pinkett Smith: Treat The Kids As Adults

Will and Jada believe in raising their kids as equals, building trust, and a sense of responsibility in their famous offspring. "I think that, specifically in African American households, the idea coming out of slavery, there’s a concept of your children being property — and that was a major part that Jada and I released with our kids."

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"We respect our children the way we would respect any other person. Things like cleaning up their room. You would never tell a full-grown adult to clean their room, so we don’t tell our kids to clean their rooms," Will explains. Obviously, some parenting must be done, but the Smiths seem to have found a perfect compromise.

'Niobe' & 'Fresh Prince': Also Let The Kids Self-Punish

We already know that the Smiths treat their kids as adults, so of course, the kids get to choose their own punishments as well. "Our concept is, as young as possible, give them as much control over their lives as possible, and the concept of punishment… it has a little too much of a negative quality," Will said in an interview.

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With a pinch of freedom and a dash of youth, it was expected that the kids would sometimes get in trouble. Will explains, "You can do anything you want as long as you can explain to me why that was the right thing to do for your life." Jada unsuccessfully tried the authoritarian way in the past, so they gave lenience a chance.

Pamela Anderson: Allows Everything

When Pam's kids were younger, during their early teen years, Anderson encouraged them to experiment with illegal substances and booze. Obviously, not pushing it onto a 13-year-old, but rather she wanted them to know that these things were OK when used responsibly and in moderation, of course.

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“I really believe in my kids. My kids have had a great foundation, they have seen the world,” reasoned Anderson. “They’ve made great choices. They are really smart people... you can’t be in denial of what life has to offer. I don’t know how much of a role model their parents are, but we’ve had a lot of fun.”

Megan Fox & Brian Austin Green: Let The Boys Wear Dresses

Both Megan Fox and her hubby are cool with their 3 boys wearing dresses, raising them in a gender-neutral environment. It appears as if Fox's strict religious upbringing has definitely affected her choices as a parent. "The women in the church are only allowed to wear pants, you can't wear dresses," Fox explains.

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Fox added, "Noah wears dresses so there are no rules — you can be whatever you want to be in my house!" Brian's opinion is the same as his wife's, “I feel like at 4, at 5, that’s a time when he should be having fun. He’s not harming anyone wearing a dress. So if he wants to wear a dress, good on him."

Kelly Ripa: Teaches Proper Manners

She doesn't care if they're the best at sports or math, Kelly is super strict when it comes to good manners. "My kids must be polite to other people, she explained. " Ripa makes her kids write thank you letters when they receive gifts, "The art of please and thank you never goes out of style. I’ve had thank-you notes made up for them..."

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In fact, she is so strict about the letters, that her son, Michael, has asked not to get presents for his birthday. “I am very serious about sending thank you notes — to the point where my oldest son, Michael has asked to not have birthday presents anymore because he doesn’t want the burden of thank you letters.”

Tamera Mowry: Doesn't Want Kids On The Bed

Tamera isn't a big fan of letting her kids sleepover in mommy and daddy's bed. She is a strict believer that everyone should sleep in their own bed, though that's easier said than done. "When they’re in your bed, it’s like sleeping with a drunk octopus... You’ll wake up with a toe in your nose and I’m trying to get them out of our bed..."

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“I don’t want them sleeping with me only because I don’t get adequate husband-and-wife time,” said the mom of two. She even goes as far as to suggest locking their door at night. Despite hubby's wishes, “I’m like, ‘Dude, let’s just lock the door. He’ll be fine, we have a camera, we’ll be able to see everything.'”

Mayim Bialik: Believes Manners Are Self-Taught

The Big Bang actress wants her kids to learn manners naturally, rather than forcing it. Mayim explains, "Before our sons were old enough to do so spontaneously, my husband and I would say 'water please' when our sons needed water... This taught them how society functions without us forcing it down their throats."

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"Children progress in their own way and pace, modeling behavior while respecting the innate development of a child as an autonomous and purposeful creature. I believe that children, like adults, generally know what works for them," she said. This caused the kids to be naturally polite, although sometimes they still need a reminder.

Alanis Morissette: Lets Kids Decide When To Wean

Alanis allows her children to decide when they've had enough... milk, that is. Morissette received negative feedback when she explained, that she left it up to her kids to decide when they want to start the weaning process. "I think it affords the child, when he grows up, to have a lot less therapy to go to."

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Kate Hudson: Raises Daughter Genderless

Kate Hudson has decided to raise her newish baby girl Rani, who's now one-year-old, genderless. Hudson, who has two boys from previous relationships, has decided to raise her daughter a little differently. "I think you just raise your kids individually regardless... We still don’t know what she’s going to identify as," said Hudson.

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Hudson revealed that when raising her sons, she didn't put any thought into what clothes she bought. However, with Rani she's taking a less gender-defined approach, "There’s some stuff that I’m like, I can’t do that to her, because it’s so over-the-top," she said. All this makes sense considering Hudson's 'free' approach to life.

Kristen Bell & Dax Shepard: Lock Doors When Kids Can't Fall Asleep

I know from the title, this sounds a bit confusing, but this method has worked for the famous couple. "She will move furniture, and she bangs on the door with different, hard toys. We switched the doorknob. We turned the lock on the outside," said Bell.

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Obviously, the parents knew this wasn't for everyone: "I know that's controversial, but we lock it when she gets in there, and we stand outside and say, 'We love you, we will talk to you in the morning, but now, it's time for sleep.' And after about 10 minutes, she'll wind herself down... before we go to bed, obviously, we unlock it."

Jennifer Lopez: Sundays Are Meant for Family

There's nothing Jennifer Lopez values more than family time. Since her four children are getting older and all have their own busy schedules these days, she's declared every Sunday as national family day. Each week, this gang participates in all sorts of different activities together.

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Whether it's hiking, a beach day, or even just family movie night, Lopez has made sure that every single Sunday is spent with all six members of the family, including partner Alex Rodriguez. Although the quarantine has made for a stressful and unsettling time, at least Lopez gets to enjoy her family's company every day of the week.

Kourtney Kardashian: Attachment Parenting

Attachment parenting is quite controversial since it involves children and parents sleeping in the same bed, but Kourtney Kardashian is a firm believer in it. She has always been open about the fact that she shared a bed with her son Mason until he felt ready to sleep by himself, and then did the same thing with daughter Penelope.

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Unfortunately, her former beau Scott was not always in favor of co-sleeping with their children, which most likely contributed to many relationship conflicts. Attachment parenting can make the relationship between parents difficult as it takes away from their precious alone time, which is hard to get with young kids.

Gwyneth Paltrow: Gluten-Free Diet

After publishing her book, It's All Good, Gwyneth Paltrow received significant backlash on her parenting techniques. In the book, she shared that she and her former husband, Chris Martin, kept their two daughters on a strict low-carb, gluten-free diet starting at a rather young age.

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Various people said that Paltrow was actually doing a disservice to her children by depriving them of glycogen, something that comes from carbohydrates and helps the brain function. But she remained confident in the way she was raising her daughters and felt no urge to make changes due to commentary by others.

Kelly Clarkson: Spanks Her Children

Kelly Clarkson has no problem admitting that she spanks her children when she finds it necessary. She claims that it's helped improve her daughter's bad behavior. "I'm like, 'Hi, I'm going to spank you on the bottom if you don't stop right now,' and it's really really helped," she said.

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Clarkson has seen a decrease in unacceptable behavior, and spanking has become more of a verbal warning over time. Many people have commented on her parenting, saying that spanking teaches children that violence is ok, but the singer is standing her ground on this one.

Farrah Abraham: No Boundaries

It seems like Farrah Abraham introduced her daughter Sophia to the cutthroat Hollywood world at a relatively young age. Ever since she was eight years old, Sophia has been getting her eyebrows waxed, wearing makeup to school, and even using Snapchat, an app that's typically used by teens, not young children.

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Abraham knows this has sparked a lot of controversies, but she has no interest in what other people think about her parenting. On the other hand, she still allows Sophia to share a bed with her and plans to allow this until she turns 18. This mother-daughter duo must be extra tight!

Alicia Silverstone: Pre-Chews her Son's Food

Alicia Silverstone chose to feed her son using the iconic baby bird method. For nearly every meal, the actress would chew up her son's food before giving it to him straight from her own mouth, calling this system 'kiss-feeding.' She had no shame in how she fed her son, even in public.

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"He literally crawls across the room to attack my mouth if I'm eating," Silverstone said, as they've both become very accustomed to this concept. If you think about it, all she's really doing is making her own baby food, just without the use of any additional dishes, or having to buy jars of pre-made baby food.

Katie Holmes & Tom Cruise: Bottle-Feeding Forever

Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise created an interesting balance in their parenting method to their daughter Suri. When she was five years old, Suri was given quite a bit of freedom to dress how she liked, as her wardrobe was respectful and appropriate, of course.

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While this former five-year-old may have been wearing fancy dresses and high heels on occasion, she was also still drinking from a bottle. Her parents were in no rush to ween Suri off of bottle feeding, even though she liked to dress well beyond her age and sip on Starbucks coffee from time to time.

Christina Aguilera: Freedom of Expression

Christina Aguilera is a firm believer in self-expression and wants her children to recognize the importance of this as well. This explains why the singer doesn't hold back on what may seem like controversial pieces of art displayed in her home, including many nude portraits.

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"I think it's important that they see mommy not be ashamed of her sexuality," Aguilera explained. She's not embarrassed about her children being exposed to this type of art and wants to make sure they are not uncomfortable, either. Being an art collector, she sees these portraits for their artistic value, not just the nudity.

Kylie Jenner: Insists On Surgical Masks

Every new mom knows that feeling of over-protection. That's exactly how Kylie Jenner admitted to being when she had her little Stormi. Kylie became very overprotective, demanding that visitors wear surgical masks, covering their noses and mouths when around her precious newborn.

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People around Kylie claim she's super protective over her little gem. Jenner and Stormi's daddy had bought boxes of the masks because they didn't want germ-infested people ruining their newest addition. Not only does she make visitors wear masks, but everything in the nursery is organic and chemical-free.

Tobey Maguire: RIE Parenting

Like many stars, Tobey Maguire decided to raise his children using the RIE parenting method, short for Resources for Infant Educarers. This is a concept where parents make a point of treating their babies like individuals and providing them the same respect that would be given to a grown adult.

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This approach was founded in 1978 with the hope that infants would learn and flourish better as individuals. As long as the infant is given a space to do so, many believe that minimal adult direction helps young children develop into their authentic selves in their own way.

Hilary Duff: Holding onto the Baby Days for Later

Like many parents, Hilary Duff had a hard time accepting that her children wouldn't be adorable little babies forever. To help her cope with this, the actress decided to save the stump from her son Luca's umbilical cord as a keepsake to look back at later.

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While this sounds rather odd, every parent is entitled to his or her own way of doing things, especially how they decide to cherish memories. Luca might think this is an odd thing to be kept in the house, but can you blame Duff for wanting to hold onto his first moments of life?

Lisa Whelchel: Punished Bad Mouths With Hot Sauce

Facts of Life actress Lisa Whelchel had a rather unusual, yet highly creative way of teaching her children not to use disrespectful language when they were growing up. Any time they were rude or talked back to her, the actress punished them by putting a drop of hot sauce on their tongue.

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This seems like a pretty effective method of parenting, and definitely gave her kids an idea of what it would taste like to be rude and disrespectful to adults. Something tells me these kids were not lovers of hot wings after their spicy punishments growing up.

Bethenny Frankel: Raising Her Daughter Without Meat

From the day baby Bryn moved on from bottles to baby food, reality star Bethenny Frankel decided that her daughter would be better off without meat in her diet. Being the founder of the Skinnygirl brand, Frankel is convinced that she knows what's best when it comes to what her daughter puts into her body.

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She's done her best to prepare the most delicious and nutritious meals possible for Bryn thus far, without meat, of course. Frankel says that if Bryn decides that she wants to try meat one day, she'll be ok with it, she just wants her daughter to be mindful and only consume the highest quality of foods.

Mariah Carey: Regulating Internet Usage

Mariah Carey learned the importance of regulating her children's internet usage the hard way. Ever since her son ordered something off Amazon for $5,000 when he was just seven years old, Carey has really cracked down on their ability to roam the internet.

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This star, of course, canceled the order right away, and also realized that she needed to teach her children the value of money. Her kids no longer have the freedom to browse around online like they once did. Who knew kids could navigate the internet better than some adults at such a young age?

Drew Barrymore: TV Is a No-Go

If you couldn't already tell by the look on her face in this photo, Drew Barrymore can't stop herself from smothering her children with hugs and kisses at all hours of the day. The actress considers herself to be a rather liberal mother but believed that TV is something that should be avoided for young kids.

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The actress doesn't allow her two adorable girls to watch TV in her home, even if she's the one appearing on the screen. She also limits the amount of junk food her kids can eat, and made a rule that they can only eat sweets when she's around to monitor their intake.

Kate Winslet: Ultimate Helicopter Mom

Kate Winslet has earned herself a title as the ultimate helicopter mom due to her famous overprotective way of raising her children. But this is, of course, only because of the immense love she has for her kids and wants to make sure that nothing bad or unsafe will ever happen to them.

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Winslet carefully monitors each child's schedule, making sure she knows where they are at all times. She even forbade them from jumping on the bed to avoid them falling and potentially getting hurt. Hopefully, these kids can appreciate all that their mother does for them and do not try and rebel in the future.

Julia Roberts: Keeps Her Kids Calm, Cool, and Collected

Julia Roberts always seems to have it together, and she has finally shared her secret. The actress says that the best piece of advice she can give to other parents is to keep the kids as calm as possible, especially when you're raising three of them while balancing a successful career.

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Roberts limits the amount of sugar that her children consume, to avoid any extra chaos that can come from excess sugar. Parenting is exhausting enough as is, so why make it more difficult? She's found that keeping a close eye on their diet has made her life a lot easier.

Eva Mendes & Ryan Gosling: Giving Their Kids a 'Normal' Life

These two lovebirds first got together on the set of The Place Beyond the Pines in 2011, and they couldn't wait to start a family together. Mendes and Gosling now have two daughters, and they're determined to give their little girls as 'normal' of a life as possible.

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They've refused to hire a nanny, so Mendes' parents pop over throughout the week to help take care of the kids since these parents each have their own busy schedule. This family of four is allegedly living in Gosling's ex-bachelor pad, which they've transformed into a cozy two-bedroom house, perfect for their tight-knit family.

Sheryl Crow: Brings Her Boys on the Road

Sheryl Crow has two adopted sons and genuinely couldn't love spending time with them more. She can't bear the thought of being away from them for long periods of time, so when she's on tour, she brings her boys on the road with her to always be there for them, and they give her the love she needs in between performances.

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The singer believes that being disrupted by her children at work is 100% worth it if this means she can continuously be emotionally available for them. She plans an itinerary for each city that allows the Crow clan to do some sight-seeing before and after concerts.

Hugh Jackman: Raising His Kids With Respect and Gratitude

Hugh Jackman is much more strict with his children than many other celebrity parents, and he credits this to the humble way in which he was raised. The actor acknowledges that his family does have many privileges that other families do not, so he wants to make sure his kids do not grow up to act entitled in any way.

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Jackman always reminds his kids of the importance of respect and gratitude, and told them, "I'm going to be tougher on you than I would be if I wasn't famous because people are actually going to be less tough on you in life." Clearly, he has a good head on his shoulders and is teaching his kids to have the same qualities.